It’s been a rough week. Matter of fact, it’s been a rough couple of months–even YEAR. Settlements, Earthquakes, Hurricanes, Tragedies….the list continues to go on and on. If you’re not careful, you might find yourself sucked into the darkness of despair. I’ve been there. I’ve felt the helplessness and anger about the events that have happened around me.
However, that’s not what this entry is about. If you’ve found yourself in a situation where you’ve felt anger, outrage or even anguish about the recent events that are highlighted in today’s news– it might help to remember the words of my childhood teacher and visionary/TV personality. Yesterday, I was reminded of him– the late Fred Rogers:
“When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’”- Fred Rogers
It’s true. You could fixate on all the negativity…everything going WRONG in our world today, and get lost in the chaos. But, what good would that do? Instead, I encourage you to look for the positive in such a devastating event…”look for the helpers.” There are already so many helpers…
I avoided a car accident yesterday. On my way home from work. I was passing an intersection and a car turned right into my lane as I was crossing. I slammed on the brakes and just BARELY missed the car. My brakes stalled and I was stopped in the middle of the intersection. In any normal situation– after my panic subsided, I would have become ANGRY and APPALLED– quick to place the blame on that individual who almost caused me to collide with them. However, yesterday was different. After my initial panic, I forced myself NOT to place blame, but to feel compassion and understanding. I thought to myself, “This was not on purpose. Perhaps the person driving the car didn’t see me and didn’t realize I was headed straight towards them.”
Friends, it was in that moment that I decided to practice more kindness. Instead of being quick to place blame and focus on the negativity, I am challenging myself to look for the positives. No matter how rough and tough life gets, I will always look for the positives…like the helpers, and the givers, and the ones who are able to see the light through all the darkness.
If not me, then who? It starts with us. Change is possible and we can make it through all of this together.